Contemporary Women And Their Mr. Right
Posted by: Pam Baldwin in Internet, tags: InternetTodayas woman has greatly increased her expectations for potential mates. She is independent, and is finding greater opportunity in the work place and in her personal life. She sizes up partners with never before seen speed, assessing a manas strengths and weaknesses without delay.
She has accomplished everything she set out to do thus far, finished college, got a great job. She is happy, but decides it is time to consider a more serious relationship than she experienced while in school. She will not treat her opportunities in love any more lightly than she has her professional opportunities, she will make a conscious deliberate decision.
What will she desire of a partner? All of the traits she desires will be contingent on her personality, values, and past experience. She may desire a man similar to her; one who is as driven and dedicated in his professional life. She may also desire someone similar to her father, who will create a home with her that mirrors the one she grew up in. Or she could desire a total opposite, a challenge, someone who has a completely different world view with whom she can share different and new experiences.
Considering all of these options, her choices will be as varied as the women themselves. Finding a man who mirrors herself she would expect to find a man who is not lazy, one who puts forth much effort into his goals. She would be expecting to find a hard working man, a man who leaves no stone unturned, and finds quitting no option in life. This type of woman would find attractive qualities in a man who puts his own sense of self first and foremost.
If she is searching for someone she can recreate her parents relationship with there are different qualities to look for there as well. Perhaps her childhood home was presided over by parents completely committed to one another, who took most seriously their pledge of loyalty to one another and faithfulness. Or her parents could have had vastly different personalities that never the less fit together comfortably and ended with them recounting their separate days at dinner. She could have also potentially found her childhood home a lonely place with little affection or devotion and could still be comfortable living that way. She would be looking for a man capable of little intimacy, someone who shares her life only as much as he shares her space in the home.
A woman looking for new thrills and excitement will desire someone capable of stimulating her thoughts and actions. A woman like this might like a man that is eccentric, jumps from project to project, and who creates a little mystery as to who he truly is; a man like that would be very creative, someone who throws caution to the wind.
We may never know what a woman truly wants, because she may not sincerely have placed in mind a specific character. Women are as different as men. She can be interested in someone who comprises all of these qualities. A man who is hard working, with a diligent attitude but also exhibits tendencies to stray from the norm and is adventurous.
We should never forget that like men, women search for the traits they find most attractive. They will be looking for men who they desire mentally and physically. Women are mysterious creatures often defying explanation; and accepting that mystery as inevitable will bring you closer to what their ideals really are.
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