For Stronger Marriage - Reasons To Stay Married After An Affair.
Posted by: Alex Archer in Family, tags: FamilyTo try to explain the emotions one feels when they have just learned their spouse is having an affair is most difficult, but one can acknowledge that a sense of betrayal, anger, and hurt are among the prevalent ones. Confusion can take hold as well, and when in the midst of the emotional turmoil of an affair, it is all too easy to act with haste. An affair need not mean the end of marriage. Everything about your life need not change in a moment’s time. If time is taken to consider what is really happening, and what the affair is indicating needs to occur at this time.
There are reasons to remain in your marriage even after an affair. It is a natural response of human beings to look upon others with lust in our eyes. For many who have married their first love, the idea of a sexual relationship with someone other than our spouse can be most intoxicating, whether we act out on that fantasy or not. Even simple flirtation can be subconsciously engaged in with no intent of taking it any further. Being human entails thinking, feeling, and sometimes even doing things that may not be the most rational choices. And when that happens, we can make an additional choice to use the errors in judgment to learn and grow.
One reason to remain together after an affair is that working through difficulties causes both individuals to grow, together and separately. The strengths that can be garnered from working past an affair together are innumerable. It’s not the good times that make a relationship strong, it has to do more with the ability to handle issues, pitfalls, and even seeming disasters together that serves to cement and reinforce the relationship and build up the marriage. Why not an affair as well?
Provided the one who strayed is actually sorry for their actions, the marriage can be build up from here. It doesn’t matter who cheated on whom. It matters that both parties care enough to work on getting past this issue, and that there is a desire to remain together, and a willingness on both of their parts to face the difficult moments that will come as they forge ahead together. The marriage can not only survive, but thrive as well.
Why stop your infidelity? Think about when you first started this affair. Did you feel guilt? Why did reasons you feel this guilt. Was it because you loved your spouse, you didnt want to hurt them, or you didnt want your marriage to end? You love them and you two built a marriage together.
Why stop your infidelity? This affair you have going is filled with excitement, intrigue and a sense of danger from the sneaking around. Is it really something that will last past those feelings? Is it a relationship that will stand the test of time? It wont, when those feelings are gone, the thrill of your relationship will be gone. You will want to crawl back to that strong rock, your spouse. Make the decision yourself before it is too late.
Why stop your infidelity? You still love your spouse! They know more about you, both your good things and your bad and they are still with you. They love you. So stop bringing this ugly hurtful thing between you both.
When you married each other it was in love. That love has played a big part in holding the relationship together when the storms came. Now, you have another storm to face together. If you both have what it takes to work past the affair, you will come out the other side of it stronger and more deeply in love. Because of the reasons you married each other, these same reasons are the ones that will keep you married.
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