Looking back on the first date, let’s backstep and see if chances are good that there will be a second date with this woman you’ve just been out with. All things considered, it seemed to go pretty well, although it was difficult to read her emotions. A first date is when we make our first impressions, presenting ourself to the other party for assessment, deciphering their interest in us, and determining if a second date is feasible. Since I conducted myself well, maybe the possibility of having a second date with her is more realistic than I had thought.
It’s a good practice to take the time to review the first date, with pen poised and paper on hand. What did you do together? What did you like about the different things you did together? It helps to understand where you are coming from, and data honed from this exercise will provide a bit of helpful information for preparing to call that lady again. Though subtle in manner perhaps, recalling particular things about the first date in later conversation is a very good way of showing you are interested in this woman.
Secondly, do an exercise to build your confidence. Talking to yourself in the mirror, doing jumping jacks to gain adrenaline, or calling a friend to gain confidence, are all good ways to conjure up the big man on campus in you for that call. This is an important step, but don’t take it too far! cockiness, is a major turn off for women!
Pick up the phone and go for it! Choosing to identify who you are promptly will lessen any potential confusion as to whom she is speaking with, and keep your self-confidence intact. Talk about her and her day, and how she has been since the first date with you. It’s a known fact that we all like to be the center of attention, we all like to know there is someone interested in our well-being. Be sure to show interest by asking questions, but not so many that you seem to be prying. Women like men who know how to listen, and seem interested enough to ask questions.
Now for the fun part! Ask her what her plans are several days from now. Try to give enough time for her to prepare for the date. Women prefer to pick out their attire days in advance so they can make changes as they see fit. If she says she has no plans, simply ask her if she’d like to go out with you again. Don’t say, \”second date\”. Those words may be too official for her, and scare away. \”Going out\”, is a much more casual way to ask. If she has plans, state what the purpose of the call is. Tell her that you had a lot of fun when you went out, and you’re wondering if she’d like to go out with you sometime. Make sure, you ask in a very casual manner.
She said yes? Great! Well, if this isn’t you, don’t worry. If you’re really that interested in going on a second date with that specific person, tell her that if she has some free time and would like to go out with you, that she call you. She may call back for another date when she feels like it is on her terms. She may not call at all. Don’t hold your breath, or wait by the phone.
If she didn’t sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it’s okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.
Above all, always be yourself. It gets very difficult to function by way of trying to be someone you aren’t. Be spontaneous and take a chance. Remember to listen, be polite, and remain involved on your next date. Assuming that you followed all of these tips, I feel pretty certain that the second date should be in the bag.
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