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When a child’s parents have no option left open to them but to separate then they will find a number of different ways that can help them to cope with the situation and feelings that they have. It is important therefore for a child’s parents to remember that they should be provided with ways in which they can easily express how they feel about the matter. Below we offer a few ways in which you as the father can help your child to cope when you and your spouse choose to separate and divorce.

Suggestion 1 - Throughout the time that the divorce is taking place it is important that you and your partner remain as friendly towards each other as possible. Therefore if at any stage you are together you should remain civil towards each other when your children are there as well. When it comes to the time when you tell your children of your decision that you are divorcing it is far better if you do this as a couple rather than as individuals.

Suggestion 2 - It is important that the new home that you make for yourself is one that your children will also feel comfortable in when they come to visit you. Ideally arrange for some of their own personal belongings to be kept at your home so that they feel it is as much theirs as it is yours.

Suggestion 3 - Throughout the divorce proceedings it is important that you allow your children to be able to freely express how they feel about the whole situation. In most cases they will not be able to tell you straightaway just how they feel about what is happening, so you should be prepared to be available and willing to listen when they are.

When many parents choose to divorce a lot of children in order to cope with the situation will start to act in ways that are very uncharacteristic. Rather than preventing them from doing something or shouting at them, it is much better if you just talk to them and try to get them to tell you exactly why they are acting the way they are. Also you need to remind them on a constant basis that although you and your partner are no longer in love with each other it does not mean that you do not love them either.

Suggestion 4 - It is important that when you spend time alone with your children during and after the divorce has taken place that you never speak ill of your partner. Unfortunately, you may well find that this can have a negative effect on your children and may well end up you actually losing them altogether.

Often when parents are divorcing, they place far too much responsibility on their children’s shoulders after the divorce has occurred. Instead, they should be treated as children and allowed to lead as normal a child’s life as possible even though they are now only living one of their parents.

The best suggestion that anyone can give a parent when faced with helping a child to cope with a divorce is to give them the freedom to express how they truly feel about the situation. Also it is important that at all times they are provided with a loving environment where they feel safe and secure.